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Sexy Diva Lingerie 101!

Tips for Wearing Lingerie for the Full-Figured Gal

How do you get over the hurdle of buying the right lingerie for your body type? When you’re plus size, you either find something that is 2 sizes too big or 2 sizes too small, right? Well-endowed women now have a reason to rejoice, they have become a fashionably, interesting size. Designers and fashion gurus have realized there is a growing market for plus size garments and added the extra inches. Sexiness and has finally acknowledged the femininity and seductiveness of the full curves. You want something that is super sexy, pretty… and flattering to your body style.

I hear women describe their insecurities on a daily basis. Most often it’s due to insecurities because of their thighs, their butt, or their visible belly outlines. But I often wonder if these ideas result directly from our fears of appearing vulnerable. Because being fat is still so stigmatized. Being seen in items of clothing that are more revealing becomes a terrifying concept. Swimsuits, lingerie and any other level of nudity is avoided. The thought of wearing a bikini, a sexy bra and panty set or even a tank top can make their skin crawl.

There is beauty in being vulnerable and usually when you see the beauty within yourself, it brings an essence of confidence that your lover is even more attracted to. Embracing the more delicate side of femininity can be empowering. In an age when we know that feminism is all about equality and the freedom to be ourselves — to be any type of woman — showing off the more vulnerable aspects of our personalities can result in newfound strength.

Some women find that wearing lingerie an exercise in empowerment. Yes, it can make you feel vulnerable or like you are putting your imperfections on display. But realize that in being kind to, or in loving your body and accepting your size, you need to put yourself on display (even if it’s just in front of the mirror). And luckily, there are a lot of amazing brands and designers catering to that need.

When trying to determine the right size lingerie to buy, keep these tips in mind.

Pay Attention. What color or style is in your closet? Do you wear jewel tones? Do you wear pastels? Do you look sexy in red? Does purple make you look like a goddess? Pay attention to the clothes you wear when you go out to dinner with your mate or with girlfriends.

Your Panty Drawer. Do you wear cheeky shorts or thongs? Are you a bikini panty, boy shorts, or a g-string person. (Granny panties should be taken out of the equation. Those are strictly for comfort and for emergencies.) What style of bras do you wear for comfort or when you have a special night.

Overall Style. Some women love a feminine, vintage or romantic look. Some women prefer a more sophisticated or darker look. If you really want to wear it, feel super confident and be excited, buy something that you will wear. Ask yourself, “Does this look comfortable?” “Does this feel itchy or scratchy?” “Does this look like it fits in with your overall style?” Itchy and scratchy lace can really ruin a moment.

Tights and Hosiery: Knowing your height is important. You don’t want hosiery that is way too long or way too short! Depending on the look you are trying to achieve, fishnets, thigh highs, or vintage style with lines down the back are an easy way to dress up a pretty bra and panty set you love. Wearing a garter, hose and heals dress up any outfit or lingerie choice, and make your legs look sexy – no matter how tall or short you are.

Extras: A corset or bustier have to be physically tried on for the right sizing, many run small. They require so much more precision. So, if you can, opt for a baby doll, chemise, slip or robe. Those will work great on a curvy body and the success rate will be so much better!

We don’t carry every lingerie style on our website, but stop buy either South Jersey Location and we have lots of sexy styles that you won’t find anywhere else.

Testicular Cancer Awareness Month

By David Wright

Every hour a male is diagnosed with testicular cancer, the most diagnosed cancer in men between the ages of 15 to 35, according to the Testicular Cancer Awareness Foundation. About one in every 263 males will develop testicular cancer at some point during his life. Testicles are part of the male reproductive system and have two main functions: making male hormones and making sperm.

The Symptoms

Men may experience few or no symptoms of testicular cancer. However, see your doctor immediately if you experience any of these warning signs:

  • Swelling or a lump in either testicle, usually painless.
  • A feeling of heaviness in the scrotum.
  • Change in the size or shape of the testicle.
  • Sudden buildup of fluid in the scrotum.
  • Pain or discomfort.

Testing Yourself

Regular Testicular self-examination can help men find changes in the testes early. Being familiar with the size, shape and usual level of lumpiness can help you determine if something is not quite right. Self-examination of the testes is important for early detection of testicular cancer. The most common method of early detection is performing a monthly exam. Since TC is usually isolated to a single testicle, comparison of your testicle with the other can be helpful. It is normal for one testicle to be slightly larger than the other. Your focus should be noticing any changes from the previous month.

Testicular Cancer Self Exam Card

Self Exam

Upon reaching puberty, all men should conduct a monthly testicular self-exam and ask your doctor during your yearly physical to perform one as well.

How to Self-exam:

  • The best time to self-exam is after a warm bath or shower when the scrotal skin is relaxed.
  • Examine each testicle gently with both hands by rolling the testicle between the thumb a forefingers.
  • Find the epididymis, the soft tube-like structure behind the testicle that collects and carries sperm. If you are familiar with this structure, you won’t mistake it for an abnormal mass.
  • Look for any lumps or irregularities. Remember that lumps or bumps may also present themselves as painless.
  • Look for any changes in size, shape, or texture. Remember it’s normal for one testicle to be slightly larger.

If you notice a lump or any changes as mentioned above, you should seek medical advice and schedule an appointment immediately. Remember testicular cancer can spread very quickly and if detected early is one of the most curable cancers.

Treatment

If diagnosed early, testicular cancer can be effectively treated and potentially cured. Advanced testicular cancer can be cured with treatment, including surgical removal of an affected testicle, usually followed by chemotherapy or radiotherapy to treat remaining cancer cells that may have spread to other parts of the body.

Sexual function or fertility should not be altered by testicular cancer and the removal of one testicle, as a single testicle products large numbers of sperm.

Resources

To learn more, visit the following websites:
Testicular Cancer Awareness Foundation – testicularcancerawarenessfoundation.org.
Testicular Cancer Society – testicularcancersociety.org.
American Cancer Society – Cancer.org.

Men’s Guide to Shower Time Fun!

A Man’s Guide: Tips and Advice for Tugging in the Tub!

shower-singerThere are two types of men in this world, men who jack off in the shower and those who sing.  Which one are you? This guide is meant to share some of the most trusted products, tips and advice for shower time fun.

The right lubricant.  During shower masturbation, some men prefer to use lubricant besides the running water. Typically lubricants will wash away in the flow of the shower. You will need to choose a lubricant that will last through the entire process. We recommend a silicone based product—that will withstand the water. Don’t use oils or oil based lubes because they aren’t typically safe for your drain/plumbing.
Get prepared.  You will need to place your lubrication and aides inside the shower stall or within reach.
Set the water.  For shower masturbation, keep in mind that the penis is more temperature sensitive than other body parts. What feels good to the wrist or back may burn the sensitive area. Turn on the water prior to getting in the shower. Get the water warm to the touch, but not hot. Once the water is the right temperature, get into the stream.
Let the water help.  The flow of the water feels good to many men during shower masturbation. Hold the head of the penis in the water stream. Move around in the water to find the spots that feel the best.
Massage the penis.  Like in any other spot, shower masturbation is about what feels the best to the male. Rub the penis to the point of orgasm.
Clean up.  These methods are great because there is no mess to clean up when you ejaculate in the shower or bathtub. Quick and easy clean up and all the evidence is washed away.
Privacy.  If you have roommates or children, the shower is the best place to have some privacy.

5 Tips from Men to Enhance Your Shower Play

1. Shower head helper. If you have a shower head with adjustable settings, turn your settings to “jet” mode in order to do this. Use soap or lube and masturbate enough till you get hard. Place the head of your penis under the “jet” stream and let the water do the work.
2. Tub and faucet. This technique will require you to practice your position in the bathtub in order to masturbate without pain. The trick to this is finding a way to kneel with most of your weight on your knees inside the bathtub. Place sponges, wash cloths, or an old towel under your knees to cushion your weight. Pull yourself in as close as you can to the stream of water. After that, it is up to you which masturbation technique to use. Thrust your body back and forth and in and out of the water stream as you rock yourself on the pivot of your knees.
3. On your back. Run warm water in the tub with the drain plugged before you start. Otherwise, the tub floor is very cold when you lay down on it. You will need to pull yourself in as close as you can to the stream of water. You will need to get your rear as close to the water as possible. Next, lay down and brace yourself by pushing your hands against the back of the tub or wall and push your whole body forward as you lift your legs up in the air and lay them up against the wall with your feet facing the ceiling. This allows the water hit your penis and scrotum from a different angle. A little work, but definitely worth it.
4. Steam bath. Get naked and turn shower on it’s hottest setting for a few minutes. Let the bathroom and shower get really steamy, then shut off the water, dry your hands, get into the shower and masturbate normally. The heat from the floor of the shower and the rising steam will to your pleasure.
5. Use an aide. If you like the sensation of masturbators, strokers, dildos, sleeves, realistic female or male toys, using them in the shower can provide even more stimulation.
A word of caution: If you use any Silicone or TPE material aides, you will want to use soap and water or a hybrid water/silicone lube for lubrication. Silicone lubes can degrade silicone toys. and make sure that the product is waterproof.

A Woman’s Guide to Splashing in the Tub

Rub a Dub Dub. . . A Woman’s Guide to Splashing in the Tub!

Shower Me With Self Love:

Bodywand Bathtime Gift Set

Bodywand Bathtime Gift Set

This might just qualify as the easiest of all the female masturbation techniques used in the bathroom. A detachable shower head if you happen to have one, is a perfect tool for the job at hand. The fact that it is detachable, allows you to point the stream of water it produces anywhere you would like. I like to begin with a tease, get myself in the mood, by allowing the water to create that familiar tingle first. I might tease my breasts and nipples long before the water ever reaches the more delicate parts that are found between my legs.

If you happen to own a massage head for the shower then you are in for a real treat. Being able to vary the power and pulsations of the water as it hits your skin, can add a completely new dimension to you masturbation session. Even if your shower head is not detachable you can still use it as a masturbation tool. Simply lie on the bottom of the tub beneath the shower head and let the water do it’s work. It doesn’t get much simpler than this method, although it may take some repositioning to find what works best for you.

Under The Faucet:

This method is a real treat for anyone who does not have a shower and can only their tub for the purpose of self pleasure. Begin by scooting your bum all the way to the front of the tub, so you can place you vulva directly under the running faucet. This is a method that I have found works slightly better if you are petite or are flexible. You can achieve a similar effect by kneeling on all fours in the tub and scooting back so that the water from the faucet will run down the back of your butt and onto your vulva.

This can be a difficult things to get just right, but in my experience is worth the effort if you do not have access to a shower head. Lay down in the bath with your legs opened wide. Then open the tap as fast as it goes, (on cold), letting the water run on your clit. Make sure there is a lot of pressure flowing out of the tap. After a few minutes turn the water to a hotter temperature, being careful not to burn yourself. It feels so great, better then sex or a dildo, but make sure your legs are as wide as they can go for maximum effect.

A Girls Best Friend Should Be Waterproof…

One of the easiest and quickest ways to have some fun in the tub, is with the help of a little friend called the waterproof vibrator. If you are going to add in a waterproof toy to your self play, there are a few safety tips you might just want to follow:

‘Splashproof’ simply means a toy will withstand bodily fluids and some splashing but it’s not suitable for the tub or the shower. Make sure the toy is actually waterproof, and can be fully submerged. The problem with this statement is that most vibrators made for the tub, or that are sold as waterproof doesn’t always mean that it is submergible – it just means that it can withstand water use to an extent. So make sure that it says it can be fully submerged before you plunge it.

Just as a precaution after use, make sure that you take the battery(-ies) out and leave covers off to make sure everything airs out.

If you are willing to invest there are some great waterproof toys out there and one of my favorites is the JimmyJane Form 2. It can be fully submerged and does not require batteries. If that is out of your price range you can find cheaper options.

This might sound obvious but please don’t use electric toys in the tub or shower. Electrocution is neither sexy or fun. If it has a power cord attached make sure it stays away from the bathroom would be my best advise here.

Invest in a good lubricant. A good silicone lube like Pure Eros is one of your best options here. If you are planning on using it with silicone toys, then you will want to get the Jack Aide High Density Hybrid. The reason I recommend Jack Aide hybrid is because it is safe to use with condoms and toys, and it offers you a water resistant lube that will last much longer than any water based lubricant.

Invest in silicone lube. It works much, much better in the water and doesn’t rinse right off like water based lube does. Yeah, you’ll need soap and water to get it all the way off, but it lasts longer in a wet environment. Just make sure any sex toys you’re using with silicone lube aren’t also made out of silicone as this will degrade your toy more quickly.

Fingers Are Free:
you knows those things that are at the end of your hands, yep, your fingers, they can be put to good use for self pleasure with in the bathroom as well. The upside of using your fingers is they are free, always available, and can be used with a combination of any of the other methods described here. You could for example: Use a dildo internally whilst playing with your clitoris with your fingers, and all while lying back and relaxing in the tub.

Shampoo Bottle DildoElectric Toothbrushes, Shampoo Bottles, Oh My…
Sometimes it’s fun to get creative when masturbating, and the bathroom offers a myriad of possibilities. If you don’t want to invest in a sex toy, we have had visitors share that they use an electric toothbrush to add a special tingle to their clits.

Others have reported using small shampoo bottles. Take an empty shampoo bottle. Don’t stick it in our anything, just fill it up with warm water, then squirt it on your clit. Also, when it’s empty, squeeze it, then put it on your clit. Release it and it’ll give a nice good suck. Actually that raises an important safety point and is something to always remember when using found objects for self pleasure. Use your common sense! Razors are designed to cut hair, not your clitoris and the blade should always be removed before you try this method for example.

So there you have a run down of the five most common ways to have fun in the bathroom. Enjoy!