Buying Your Daughter Her First Vibrator

Buying your daughter her first vibrator can be difficult. We don’t often want to acknowledge that our children are growing up and becoming adults with adult needs and desires. We can be uncomfortable with encouraging our children to explore their own sexuality, fearing it may lead to promiscuity. But there are many reasons why should buy your daughter her first vibrator.

Times sure have changed. When I was a teen, my mother never acknowledged my sexuality. Even now, as a fully grown woman, I don’t think she ever saw me as a sexual being, even after I got married and gave birth multiple times! To be fair, I didn’t like to see her as a sexual being either. The idea of my parents having sex . . . insert shudder here! But times are a changing and parents these days thankfully have a more open attitude towards their child’ssexuality. Buying your daughter her first vibrator can help build and strengthen your relationship as you transition from parent/child to parent/adult child.

Reasons You Should Make this Purchase

  • Gifting this to her saves her the embarrassment of having to go into an adult store on her own. It can be uncomfortable for any adult to shop for the first time in sex toy store – we’re not sure why as we’ve tried to make it as inviting as possible but social stigmas do still exist.
  • It is important to encourage her to explore her sexuality on her own. She should have an idea of what she likes and doesn’t like before engaging in sex with a partner. If she can’t find her own g-spot, how is she going to help her partner find it?
  • It promotes the safest sex around – sex with yourself. Teenager have raging hormones and need a sexual outlet. By buying her a vibrator, she can stay home and indulge these feelings in the safety and comfort of her room, rather than seeking it elsewhere.
  • It takes the guesswork out. Trust us, there are literally thousands of vibrators on the market. Staring at a wall of vibrators can be overwhelming for anyone. By gifting her a vibrator, it’s a start. She can always shop on her own later once she begins to understand what she likes and doesn’t like.
  • It shows you respect the woman she is becoming. No parent really likes the idea of their child growing up. It’d be nice if they played with their Polly Pockets forever. But unfortunately, that isn’t going to happen. Acknowledging her as a sexual person shows you are recognizing her as the whole person she is becoming, not just a few of her parts.
This cute packaging makes it easy to gift a vibrator for the holidays!

What to Look for in Your First Vibrator

  • Affordability. This is likely not going to be the only vibrator she owns in her lifetime so there’s no need to spend a fortune on bells and whistles. Start simple and she can work her way up to more complicated vibrators as she becomes more comfortable with their use.
  • Have fun! You do not need to give her a plain white vibrator! There are vibrators for the holidays with candy canes and Christmas trees! There are vibrators in pretty colors and patterns. Pick out something that suits her personality. The cuter it is, the less threatening it is.
  • Stay classic. The classic shaped vibrator or bullet is great for first time use. It’s non-phallic so there is no danger of assuming sexual preferences. They are relatively simple to operate and can be used internally or externally on any erogenous zone so they are great for exploration.
  • Consider a massager. A massager is great if you want to gift a vibrator but don’t want it to seem overly sexual. Massagers cannot be used internally but are designed to be used externally on sore muscles as well as on your personal areas. Because they are widely sold in mainstream stores, they may be less intimidating.

What Else to Buy

  • Don’t forget the batteries! Unless you are purchasing a rechargeable vibrator, make sure she has everything she needs to start using her toy when she’s ready.
  • Help her set the mood. Package it up with some bubble bath or candles so she can learn how to relax, unwind, and enjoy some downtime
  • Include a lubricant. Even if she’s young, it can still be hard to get the juices flowing, particularly if she’s new to vibrator use. Lubricants can help her body adjust.
  • Don’t forget the cleaner! Teach her right away the proper care and cleaning of sex toys. They should be cleaned before and after every use to prevent harmful bacteria.
  • Give her vibe a home. She doesn’t just want to toss her vibrator into her nightstand drawer, that defeats the point of cleaning and it also doesn’t respect her privacy. Consider a storage box or bag made specifically for sex toys which will keep them clean and lint free.

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