How to Give the Best Blow Jobs!

In honor of the upcoming Steak and a BJ Day on March 14th, Fantasy Gifts has decided to share some great tips on how to give your lover a Blow Job he will remember! The act of Oral Sex has many names: Blow Jobs, Giving Head, Hummers, BJs, Going Down, or Fellatio. Whatever you decide to call it, we can all agree that guys will do almost anything to get it. Oral Sex is as intimate as it comes, so take control of the situation and show him that you want to make him feel amazing! Great oral sex is the ultimate sexual gift you can give to your lover. So why not give it your all?

Oral Sex Basics

If you are like many of us out there, the first time you performed oral sex it was probably awkward and you might have felt like you were doing something wrong. Don’t feel bad. It’s not like you get a guidebook with your lover’s penis or it’s a comfortable subject to talk about with friends or family. I am pretty sure it’s one of those things you had to trust your instincts and figure out by yourself. Fantasy Gifts has decided to share some tips on giving a great blow job or to help you improve upon your current skill set.

As a general rule, oral sex should feel similar to the movements of sexual penetration. It’s called a blow job – but there’s no actual blowing involved! Instead, blow like a pro and take his penis into your mouth, (with plenty of saliva) and suck up and down his shaft imitating the thrusting motion of penetration, taking care not to graze his ‘friend’ with your teeth. Remember when it comes to sucking him off, teeth are never welcome. We suggest using a dental barrier such as Gummy Teeth Covers that come in 3 flavors, strawberry, cherry and watermelon.

Anticipation & Performance

Make sure you set the mood by engaging in a little teasing foreplay to build anticipation. Exchange soft, wet kisses on his mouth, neck and earlobes. Use a tingling lip gloss to add lingering sensations to his sensitive areas. Blindfold or tie him up. Show him what foreplay is all about! Slowly bring your mouth down just far enough on his body so you are teasing him with the thought that you might follow through. Unzip his pants and begin teasing his penis lightly with your hand as you sweep your mouth around his navel, his trail, hips.

Make an effort and get into it. Oral sex performed without passion is no fun. Just think about how you would want your body treated if your lover was returning the favor to you. He wants to know that you’re enjoying it as much as he does. Try gently caressing his testicles and adjust to a faster pace for a few strokes. Take him to the edge then bring him back down to work him up with anticipation. Lick, suck and play with his erect penis using your tongue. Try to make eye contact — looking directly in his eyes is an intimate exchange. Make sure you’re arousing his favorite spots and be sure to watch and listen to his reactions. Don’t be afraid to ask him what he likes. All men are different.

Start by getting comfortable. Oral sex can be work and exhausting, so be sure to position yourself so your upper body and shoulders can move up and down with you. You can also use position furniture to help keep you comfortable. Just remember: You set the depth. You set the pace. You set your comfort. You’re in control. Here are a few more oral sex tips below to help you out.

Oral Sex Tips

Oral Sex Tip #1: Sensitive Areas

When giving him a blow job, be sure to linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive – the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum – the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. He’ll also appreciate lots of attention around the shaft. Whether you use your mouth, tongue or hands, some good shaft action will get him closer to blowing his load.

Oral Sex Tip #2: Use Your Hands

If your partner’s penis is on the large side you may find it more than a mouthful. Blow jobs can be difficult to perform on bigger penises but don’t worry – you’re not expected to be able to take it all the way down. A simple trick to blow job success is to use your hand and your mouth together – which will feel good for any size of penis. Use an edible lubricant or your saliva to get things going moving and move your hand from the shaft (bottom) to the tip until he’s really hard. Then add your mouth, taking him in as your hand moves up and down.

Oral Sex Tip #3: Involving Other Hot Spots

Oral sex is about using your mouth to maximum effect, on his penis, and other areas too. Try lightly sucking on his balls one at a time. Kiss his inner thighs, breathe on him, make some noises, or hum when you blow him (which will vibrate his sensitive areas). Be sure to lick his perineum (along the line between his anus and testicles) or if you are feeling adventurous, add an anal toy, prostate massager, or insert a lubed finger into his anus.

Oral Sex Tip #4: Hot & Cold

Blow jobs and oral sex should be fun so if you want to spice it up try playing with temperature and sensations. Temperature play can be fun, so try taking a mouthful of warm tea, swill it around your mouth and swallow then take your man’s penis into your mouth for 20 seconds and suck. Then take a mouth full of cold water and do the same. The difference in hot and cold will feel fabulous for him. You can also try champagne, fizzy water, mint, ice cubes and ice cream for extra unexpected sensations. We have a variety of blow job enhancement aids like the BJ Blast or GoodHead BJ Helper or Stimulating Body Balm.

Oral Sex tip #5: Get Saucy

Some women can’t bare the taste of their man in their mouths which makes oral sex rather less enjoyable. While performing a blow job you can add chocolate body paint or ice cream then spend time licking and sucking it off, or try a flavored lubricant.

Oral Sex Tip #6: Gagging

Gagging during oral sex isn’t something to be embarrassed about. He’ll think you’re gagging because he’s so massive and if you actually tell him that then you’ll give him one enormous ego boost that he’ll love you for. If you want to take him in your mouth and you have an oversensitive gag reflex, we suggest using a minty throat numbing spray or Oral Sex Numbing Mints. If you find yourself gagging often then try using your hands!

Oral sex tip #7: Ejaculation

What about the big release? Where should he cum? Should you swallow or not? If you have aversion to taking his load in your mouth, know that you don’t have to. Don’t force yourself to swallow, it won’t make it any less pleasurable for him. Just make sure he withdraws in time. Otherwise, let him come in your mouth and then you can spit it out. It’s a good idea to have tissues or a towel on hand to either spit into or clean up any spillage. Some men like to come onto breasts, stomachs, butts, or other parts of their partner’s body. Make sure you’ve agreed upon the where before getting started, but know that it’s entirely your choice.

Oral Sex Tip #8: Improving the Taste

Some foods and drinks do have an effect on the taste of your guys load. Alcohol, caffeine, recreational drugs and nicotine all add a tang to your man’s semen and make it taste like a bad night out. The day after a binge it’s probably best to avoid blow jobs altogether! Vegetarians have better tasting sperm but too much cauliflower, broccoli and asparagus can have a seriously negative impact – so get your guy to limit these foods if you’re planning to swallow after an oral sex session. Try adding some flavored arousal gel to mask the taste!

Some foods to avoid are obvious – garlic and onions can make your breath smell plus add a funky taste to semen too. If you want to sweeten his spunk try getting your lover to eat plenty of fruits that are high in natural sugars – pineapple juice is a winner. Also sweet and fragrant foods and herbs like parsley, wheatgrass, celery, cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon can all make for a sweet oral sex session.

Oral Sex Tip #9: Sexually Transmitted Diseases

Safer Sex Precaution. To fully enjoy the pleasures of oral sex both of you should be totally monogamous and free of all sexually transmitted diseases. When giving (or receiving) oral sex, be aware that hepatitis B, fungal infections and other STDs can be passed on via oral sex and blow jobs. The risk of HIV transmission from performing oral sex is low but it can still happen. If you’re unsure of your partner’s sexual past, use a condom. Mouth infections can also be transmitted via oral sex and remember never to give head when you have a cold sore unless you want to give him herpes! Try using a flavored condom or a minty dental dam for further protection.

Oral Sex Tip #10: Overcoming Reservations

Some women are repulsed by oral sex and blow jobs and don’t like the idea of putting their partner’s penis in their mouth, it’s not for everyone – the idea is to both get turned on from the experience. Try having a shower together as part of foreplay so that you can nice and clean before you get dirty. You could also try role playing like a pretending to be a student at BJ University, so while acting out sexual play, it can allow you to express a naughtier side of yourself.

If you still don’t feel comfortable with giving oral sex, maybe watch a video together and take small steps in getting comfortable with the thought of oral play. There is no point forcing yourself – he’ll know if you’re not happy. Plus it won’t be as enjoyable for him if you are miserable. The goal is shared pleasure and excitement. Talk to him about it and you might find you change your mind in time. Blow jobs should be a good experience for the both of you. Knowing you’re turning him on is a turn on in itself.

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* This blog was updated on September 6, 2022 to remove or update links and information.

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