If you’re wondering how to engage in sexy sensory play, you’ve come to the right place! We’ve all heard that if one sense goes, your other senses become heightened. That is the basis behind sensory play. By denying yourself, or your partner, of one (or more) of their senses, you open yourself up to an intense sensory experience! Deprive yourself of sight, for example, and you instantly become more sensitive to what you hear, taste, touch and feel.
The sense of sight is probably the easiest sense to turn on and off. It could be as simple as closing your eyes or burying your head in a pillow. But sensory play also involved the element of losing control. In order to submit to the loss of sight, the easiest fix is an eye mask. Cheap, portable, and simple to use, an eye mask can also do double duty as an eye shade to prevent sunlit mornings from waking you!
Many people assume that sensory play involving touch involves pain, but it doesn’t have to. While pain can be pleasurable, there are also non-painful ways to either accentuate or deprive one of the sense of touch. If you are looking to deprive yourself of touch, restraints are the best way! By being tied up, you cannot touch yourself or your partner, leaving you to rely on your other senses to bring pleasure! Try a feather tickler to lightly tease your partner. A glass toy can be heated up or cooled down for a sensory delight. And if want to try a little painful pleasure, try a whip, a paddle or a some clamps.
Did you wonder why Christian Grey play 16th century choral music while in the Red Room? Because sound literally sets the tone of a room! Create a hot and steamy playlist for those erotic sensory play moments. Listening to the beats and the lyrics makes for a very hot experience. Or you can try whispering softly to your partner. To deprive yourself of this sensation, noise-canceling ear muffs or ear plugs are a perfect option. If that’s not an option, put ear buds on your partner so they can only hear music rather than what you’re doing.
When talking about taste, we’re not necessarily just talking about oral sex. Although oral sex is very important and pleasing, the sense of taste in particular is more than about licking someone’s genitals. Certain food tastes can spark very romantic feelings. The decadence of chocolate, the bubbliness of champagne, the sweetness of strawberries – all can work together to create a delicious experience!
Smell is a widely encompassing sense that is very —. Not all smells are good smells to all people. Much like one’s trash is another’s treasure, one’s vanilla cinnamon is another’s poopy diaper! There are aphrodisiac scents which are fragrances that arouse sexual instinct by increasing desire, pleasure or performance. Aphrodisiac scents include pumpkin, lavender, vanilla, cinnamon, peppermint, and ginger. There are also sex pheromones which are chemical (olfactory) signals, pheromones, released by an organism to attract an individual of the opposite sex, encourage them to mate with them, or perform some other function closely related with sexual reproduction. Some colognes perfumes can mask your natural odors, others can enhance them. Play with different scents to find what turns you and your partner on!
As with any form of sexual activity, good communication is key. Talk with your partner before, during and after sensory play to make sure all parties feel safe, comfortable and protected.