GUIDE TO STRAP ONS AND HARNESSES

Based on the number of questions we get, a guide to Strap Ons and Harnesses seemed to be in order! A harness with a dildo attached can be used by all couples to excite and stimulate both vaginally and anally. Harness plus dildo is just not for female to female vaginal sex. Many women and their male partners come in to inquire about pegging or strap on sex. Men with erectile dysfunction have had Fantasy Gifts toys recommended to them. Using a harness and hollow dildo or a harness with a cut out to accommodate the penis is a non medical way to simulate an erection and the thrusting that they and their partners are used too.  Female couples who are interested in have wide variety to choose from with or with out realistic penis dildos. The Dillio line has a wonderful selection of non-phallus shaped toys that can be used in a harness or even by themselves such as the Fantasy for Her Ultimate Strapless Strap On.  Dildos for harness use come in a variety of shapes and sizes so you’ll be sure to find the right one for you, look for ones with a wide base or a scrotum that will fit snuggly into the rings or attachment device.

The rules for strap on use are the same for any other toy play, first of all you and your partner have to have talked about what you want to do. Just whipping out a harness with a dildo attached is not how to get your partner interested in something new.  Start with our Guide to Strap Ons and Harnesses. Be willing to experiment with your partners fantasies also, If you are interested in using strap on harness on your partner with an anal dildo you should be willing to at least talk about the idea of your partner using it on you, or at least indulging other fantasies. Both partners should be relaxed and plenty of lubrication should be used especially with anal play. When you are first starting out using the dildo alone or attaching the dildo to your thigh will  help your partner get used to the dildo and  you can get used to what they like so you can build up to more powerful thrusting.

 

MEN’S GUIDE TO STRAP-ONS AND HARNESSES

WHY DO MEN WEAR STRAP-ONS

Some men enjoy wearing strap-ons for a boost of confidence if experiencing erectile dysfunction or unhappy with their penis size. Choosing to wear a hollow strap-on over your own manhood adds a few inches and some extra girth, giving you a real ego boost and providing your partner with extra pleasure.  Other men wear strap-ons just to add a little variation to sexual play, such as having a penis which vibrates or one which features a clitoral stimulator. Experimenting with new accessories in the bedroom is a fun and healthy way of expressing sexuality and discovering what is the most enjoyable for you and your partner.

HOW STRAP-ONS WORK

Much like strap-on dildos used by women, a strap-on for a man is secured in, or fixed to, a harness. These harnesses tend to be adjustable so that the wearer can find a comfortable fit, only with a male strap-on the dildo is hollow so that he can slide his penis inside and use the dildo naturally as an extension of his own cock.

You may find it easier to slide your penis into the strap-on if you apply lubricant to your cock and the strap-on first, but remember you should only use water based lubricants with silicone sex toys.

TYPES OF MALE STRAP-ONS

Realistic Hollow Strap-ons: Realistic strap-on dildos provide the aesthetic detail of a penis, with all the wonderful veins, nodules and sometimes even testicles that you would expect from a man. This type of male strap-on will enhance your manhood in the most natural way possible, just adding a few inches.

Vibrating Hollow Strap-ons: A vibrating strap-on is perfect for adding a new thrill to your love making sessions. The vibrations will travel down the length of the strap-on to stimulate both the wearer and the receiver. A vibrating strap-on will turn an ordinary sex session in to one exciting ride.

Hollow Strap-ons with a Clitoral Stimulator: For a lot of women, penetrative sex is not quite stimulating enough for her to achieve orgasm, that’s why strapping into something which provides clitoral stimulation could be the perfect way to have her screaming until dawn. A male strap-on with clitoral stimulator will still mean you’re delivering the goods, but with a bonus prize. Let’s not forget as well that the vibrations will be travelling up the length of your shaft so this toy will be fun to use both as the wearer and the receiver.

PENIS EXTENDERS & SLEEVES

If you’re not keen on wearing a full strap-on, or what to start off with a product which is a little more simplistic, then maybe a penis extension sleeve is the right choice for you. With this toy you simply lube up, slide your penis into the sleeve then penetrate your partner as normal. The cock sleeve will then add some extra length and girth to sex, as well as some new textures in the same way that a hollow strap-on does.

WOMEN’S GUIDE TO STRAP-ONS AND HARNESSES

CHOOSING A STRAP-ON

There are two main types of strap-ons; ones which have a harness, where only one partner is penetrated, and a strapless dildo which is held in place by a contoured mini dildo, so that both partners are stimulated. Strap ons can be worn by men or women (though are more commonly worn by women) as some dildos are hollow and allow the man’s penis to sit inside.

Strap on Dildos: The traditional strap-on dildo is a toy which gives full control to the wearer and is a great choice for when only one partner enjoys receiving penetration. Strap-on dildos can come in with a harness or as specially designed pants – some vibrate, others have interchangeable dildos and some even feature clitoral stimulation.


Butterfly Strap On:
Butterfly strap-on vibrators provide amazing clitoral stimulation and often feature a dildo for vaginal stimulation. These strap-ons are mostly used for solo play and aren’t generally regarded as traditional strap ons despite the straps! Butterfly vibrators can be used by couples with the vibrations travel through both partners for a delightfully pleasurable experience.Strapless Strap On: A strapless strap on dildo is an ideal toy for when both partners enjoy internal stimulation. The mini dildo which holds the strap-on in place stimulates the g-spot, whilst the wearer is able to penetrate their partner with the main dildo. Strapless dildos can vibrate and some even feature an anal stimulator for the wearer, to make the experience even more pleasurable. If you’re a woman who has difficulty keeping the mini dildo in place during sex then you may find some kegel exercisers will help to strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.

HOW TO USE A FEMALE STRAP-ON

  • You should always make sure that your toys are clean and ready for use. Spray with sex toy cleaner then rinse with warm water to keep everything nice and hygienic.
  • If you’ve gone for the traditional strap-on, it’s just a case of strapping yourself into the harness and making sure that you’re comfortable and the dildo is securely held in place. With some strap-ons the dildo will be permanently fixed to the harness, with others you may need to secure it in place yourself.
  • If you’re using a strapless dildo, you simply insert the mini dildo into your vagina, you may find this easier to do with lubricant, and your vaginal muscles will contract around the mini dildo and hold the toy firmly in place. If your strapless strap-on has an anal stimulator, lubricate this and carefully insert.
  • Once you’re happy that your strap-on is comfortable and secure, apply a generous amount of lubricant to the main dildo, and then use your hips to penetrate your partner. Your hands will then be free for anything else you desire.

For more information see the resource sections on Anal Play and Dildos.